Vanity and the House of Mirrors



I have 18 french doors in my home. And 90% of them are mirrored (for privacy).  That, along with other mirrors,  would make it seem that we are a very vain couple.
I will confess that I often watch myself prance (yes I do prance)about the house; it’s virtually impossible NOT to but I will say, in my own defense, that I am far more apt to be self-critical than anything else but I realize that too can be a sign of vanity. So I am vain. I compare myself to others; I check out my rounded shoulders, my too large waist line. I scold myself when I see myself coming AND going since neither view is particularly pleasant but what I am totally amazed at is the total LACK of VANITY in my dear husband. In fact, in over 41 years of marriage I have NEVER seen him look at himself in any mirror or reflective surface other than to shave or brush his teeth. Even then it is as though he is completely satisfied with what looks back at him. He is neither excessively pleased nor displeased.  Sometimes I reach over and straighten a wispy bit of hair for him or tidy his collar and he just shrugs his shoulders and tolerates my fussing.
At one time I used to wish he would care more about how he looks or dresses but that was the silly immature me. I actually am put off by men who are overly conscious of their looks be they wonderful or seriously lacking.
I love that my man is just the way he is!

I happily reside in this House of Mirrors with a man who could live without them.

13 responses

  1. I am totally agreeing with Lori–French doors oh so lovely but bleh, for cleaning!
    Love your Christmas trees and the snowflakes….I feel like singing a Christmas carol while I am here. Er, better cover your ears, my singing is currently making dogs howl!

  2. Living in a house of mirrors, I don’t think I could do. You couldn’t HELP but look at yourself, and I don’t want to!! You seem to want to but I don’t think that makes you vain. Maybe you’re beautiful, and who wouldn’t want to see that? Or maybe you like seeing your life in action ‘this is me walking towards the kitchen’. Whatever it is, I don’t think you’re vain. I think you have a curious interest in your comings & goings – I sure as hell don’t! Mine are boring! Your house sounds interesting, actually. And CONGRATULATIONS on 41 years of marriage. That’s legendary.

  3. Ahhh men, they DO seem to be generally blessed with a comfort in their own skin. They don’t fret or self-critique like so many of we, of the female gender, are prone to do. Or maybe, like you, those who aren’t vain are simply the type of men I find attractive. And your mirrored french doors got me thinking. We have 16 french doors in our home – not counting the 2 that are interior – but what a great idea to switch, somehow, the exterior ones so that they’re reflective on the outside, but can be seen through from the inside – I’d love that sense of privacy. Hmmmmm, can that be done?

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